Capstone Advisor Session

Capstone Advisor Session logo

2025 Capstone Advisor Session Topic:

Advising the Whole Family: Rethinking Philanthropic Governance

Wednesday, October 29, 2025

7:30 am – 9:00 am

7:30 – 8:15 am – Breakfast & Networking
8:15 – 9:00 am – Panel Discussion & Q&A

99 S Almaden Blvd, San Jose, CA 95113

Featuring

Matthew Wesley

Founder, Ascend Family Advisory

Matthew Wesley headshot

CAS 2025 Recording

Event Description

This year’s Capstone Advisor Session features Matthew Wesley, founder of Ascend Family Advisory, who will share insights from his long career helping clients navigate complex family dynamics, align planning structures with their unique family cultures, and empower younger generations to contribute meaningfully. Discover how to move beyond “one size fits all” solutions by facilitating deeper conversations, noticing key dynamics, and integrating the family into the planning process. Explore the evolving role of the advisor as a guide, helping families co-create strategies where no solution is complete without input from all voices.

Event Photo Gallery

Resources

Presentation Slides

HANDOUT:

Facilitator’s Guide to Creating a Philanthropic Operating Agreement

ARTICLE:

The Blob: How culture eats structure for breakfast by Matthew Wesley

ARTICLE:

Acquirers’ and Inheritors’ Dilemma: Discovering Life Purpose and Building Personal Identity in the Presence of Wealth

Brief Bibliography on Family Wealth and Dynamics

Books referenced during the presentation:

  • Family Wealth – Keeping it in the Family by James Hughes (2004)
  • Strangers in Paradise by James Grubman (2013)

Additional Resources:

  • Complete Family Wealth (2017) by James Hughes, Susan Massenzio and Keith Whitaker
  • The Cycle of the Gift: Family Wealth and Wisdom (2012) by James E. Hughes Jr., Susan E. Massenzio and Keith Whitaker
  • Good Fortune: Building a Hundred-Year Family Enterprise (2013) by Dennis Jaffe
  • Raised Healthy, Wealthy, and Wise: Lessons from Successful and Grounded Inheritors on How They Got that Way (2014) by Coventry Edwards-Pitt
  • How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success (2015) by Julie Lythcott-Haims
  • The Defining Decade: Why Your 20s Matter – And How to Make the Most of Them (2013) by Meg Jay

Sponsors

This event would not be possible without our generous sponsors.

Who Should Attend?

Professionals of all levels in the following fields:

  • Estate Planning
  • Tax
  • Wealth Management
  • Insurance
  • Other advisory fields that work with individuals/families

Speakers

Matthew Wesley

Matthew Wesley

Founder @ Ascend Family Advisory

Matt Wesley is an internationally recognized advisor, speaker, and thought leader on issues facing financially successful families. With a 40-year career in professional ministry, law, and family advisory work, Matt advises prominent families worldwide at the intersections of love, money, and power. His practice emphasizes applied theory and innovative practical approaches that deepen family culture, empower decision-making, and accelerate learning across generations. He holds his JD from Stanford.

Mary Quilici Aumack

Mary Quilici Aumack

CEO Emerita @ The Catholic Community Foundation

Mary Quilici Aumack was the Chief Executive Officer of the Catholic Community Foundation for 15 years where she helped further the Foundation’s mission of creating FOREVER VALUE. Prior to joining the Foundation, Mary’s career was in high tech, including Vice President for Hewlett Packard, where she managed a $1Billion Enterprise Distribution business. Mary has a strong background in philanthropy. She is a former board member of Catholic Charities of Santa Clara County and Board of Fellows of Santa Clara University.

Event MC

Camie VanKeuren

Camie VanKeuren

CEO @ The Catholic Community Foundation

Camie VanKeuren has spent her entire career serving in the Silicon Valley nonprofit sector. She is passionate about strengthening communities, building partnerships, and supporting organizations that make a lasting impact. Camie has extensive leadership experience in development and philanthropy, previously serving as Vice President of Philanthropy for Valley Health Foundation. Prior to that, she held multiple leadership roles at the American Heart Association. In addition to her professional work, Camie serves as Chair of the Board of Directors for the Happy Hollow Foundation and as a member of the PTG at Saint Frances Cabrini School in San Jose.

Don’t miss all our advisor news!

Sign up for CCF’s Advisor E-Newsletter and receive the latest updates about this event and other news about philanthropy.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if the content will be relevant to me? Is anyone allowed to attend this event?
This event is geared toward attorneys in the estate planning field, CPAs who work with individuals and families on tax planning, wealth managers, insurance professionals, and other related fields which advise individuals and families on their wealth and taxes. While the range of attendees is relatively broad, the Foundation reserves the right to refuse access to those who we believe are only interested in soliciting our attendees.
Can I invite other people to this event?
Yes! We encourage you to invite your colleagues and other people at your firm to attend this event.
How much do tickets cost?
This is a free event thanks to the generosity of our sponsors. Follow the links on this page to reserve your free seat. You may also forward this information to your colleagues so they can register for a free ticket.
Do I need my ticket handy to enter the event?
No, we will have a list of all registered guests at the entrance and will check you in once you arrive.
How can I become a sponsor for this event?
If you’re interested in sponsoring this year or next year’s event, please contact info@catholiccf.org with your company information.
Will this event be livestreamed?
No. This is an in-person event. There will be a recording on the presentation available after the event for those who registered.

Highlights from Previous Years

Family Charitable Giving: Advisors’ and Donor’s Perspectives

Four speakers at the Capstone Advisor Session 2024 eventOn October 29, 2024, advisors from around the Bay Area gathered in San Jose to hear about how conversations about philanthropy are impacting the lives of clients and advisors alike. The Foundation presented the annual Capstone Advisor Session featuring three panelists who shared their unique perspectives on the topic of philanthropy and how the conversations between clients and advisors is enriching the overall experience of both parties. The panel shared stories from their personal experiences which showcased the important role advisors play in inspiring, encouraging and implementing charitable giving.

Read more >>

Watch the recording >>

 

Expanding the Definition of PhilanthropyFour speakers from the Capstone Advisor Session on stage smiling

On June 15, 2023, advisors from around the Bay Area gathered in San Jose to hear from a panel of experts about how philanthropy is changing and expanding. The panel examined how advisors can support clients as they explore philanthropic options and open the conversation to new ideas for giving.

Read more >>

Watch the recording >>

 

A Conversation with 3 Generations of the Sobrato Family

3 Sobrato speakersOn May 19, 2022, Capstone Advisor Session featured a conversation with three generations of the Sobrato family – John A., John M. and John Matthew Sobrato. They discussed the roots of their philanthropy, how they engage the younger generation, the future of the Sobrato Organization, how they think about impact, and more.

 

CARES Act: Tax Implications and Philanthropy Webinar

CARES Act: Opportunities for Philanthropy banner

In 2020, the Foundation hosted a webinar exploring the tax implications of the CARES Act and how the legislation created opportunity for endowment as a solution for fulfilling philanthropic goals.

Nancy Moriarty, Tax partner at Frank, Rimerman + Co., spoke about the provisions of the legislation that impact philanthropy, and Erik Dryburgh, Principal at Adler & Colvin, discussed endowments, broadly and in light of this legislation. Mary Quilici Aumack, CEO of the Catholic Community Foundation, spoke about family endowments as a unique and effective way that families can take full advantage of this legislation while creating long-term financial support for organizations they love.

Philanthropy Planning with your Clients

2019 advisor breakfast panelKia Sullivan, Vice President and Senior Philanthropic Advisor at Wells Fargo Bank and Anne M. Yamamoto, Senior Tax Partner at Frank, Rimerman + Co. LLP shared ideas – from complex to simple – about tax efficient ways to support clients in their desire to improve their communities and leave a legacy of generosity.

What is the role of a financial or legal advisor in their clients’ philanthropic decisions? What is the context in which advisors are having these conversations in the Silicon Valley?presents on this topic at the Catholic Community Foundation’s “Advisor Breakfast: Philanthropy Planning with your Clients” on May 8, 2019.

Kia and Anne discussed the opportunity for generosity in Silicon Valley and clients’ desire to give, as well as the importance of having the conversation about giving with clients. They both shared stories from their personal experience and resources that they have found helpful in this area.
Bryan PolsterOn April 25, 2018, Bryan Polster, Chairman of the Board of Partners at Frank, Rimerman + Co. LLP, brought his years of expertise to the discussion of multigenerational tax planning and the new tax legislation. He touched on a wide variety ways advisors can maximize the effectiveness of existing tax strategies in light of the new legislation, including Donor Advised Fund bunching, IRA rollovers, family endowments, and charitable lead trusts.

Bryan described many techniques advisors can utilize to help their clients, but the true takeaway was his message about how advisors can use their role as influencer to help bridge the huge gap between poverty and wealth in our local community. The Giving Code*, a 2016 study of wealth and philanthropy in the Silicon Valley, notes that there are more than 12,550 households with over $5 million in investable assets, while in that same area 30% of people rely on social support to make ends meet. Along with the huge amount of wealth in the Valley, there is a real desire to give back, but donors, many of them young people with newly acquired wealth, don’t always know where or how to give.

According to an update to the The Giving Code in January of 2018, a common theme from the surveyed group of wealthy individuals was a frustration with their advisors. The advisors did a great job with technical recommendations or the “how” of philanthropic giving, but were lacking the “why.” Bryan encouraged everyone to not restrict themselves to the technical aspects of their position, but to draw upon and share their personal experiences with their clients when appropriate. Simple, honest conversations with clients can have a lasting impact and provide inspiration for their philanthropy.

Being this type of influencer in a client’s life is a calling and a challenge which requires awareness and collaboration. Bryan challenged everyone to collaborate more with their peers in their field and across fields to meet this need. By working together and partnering with organizations like the Foundation, advisors can help their clients identify, visualize, and articulate their objectives, and then make them into a reality. “Only with humility and an open mind,” said Bryan, “can we effectively collaborate with one another to benefit both our clients and our community.”

2018 Advisor Breakfast crowd

*Cortes Culwell, A. and McLeod Grant, H. (2016). The Giving Code: Silicon Valley Nonprofits and Philanthropy Executive Summary. [online] Open Impact LLC. Available at: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/579ea07b414fb51257607b72/t/580e9bf06b8f5b70e606d390/1477352433730/GivingCode_execsummary_download_102516.pdf [Accessed 7 May 2018].

Capstone Advisor Session logo

The Capstone Advisor Session is the Foundation’s annual event for professional advisors where we aim to
equip professionals with new ideas and tools related to philanthropy and inspire professionals to have the conversation of philanthropy with their clients. The target audience is professionals in the fields of estate planning, tax accounting, wealth management, and other related professions.

1
3
1
2
2
1
1
1